If you find yourself shutting down during conflict or clinging tightly to those you love, your attachment system may be stuck in survival mode. And that could be impacting more than your relationships—it might be rewiring your brain.

In this episode, Amy shares how childhood experiences shape adult emotional patterns, and how healing attachment trauma can actually protect your brain from conditions like Alzheimer's.

What to Listen For

• [00:03:00] How childhood emotional neglect wires your brain for stress
• [00:05:00] Amy’s personal story of trauma—and what it taught her brain
• [00:08:00] Why attachment is NOT the same as love or discipline
• [00:10:00] The role of the right brain in emotional regulation (Dr. Allan Schore’s research)
• [00:13:00] The 3 types of insecure attachment—and how each develops
• [00:21:00] The adult signs of anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment
• [00:24:00] Why “emotional rollercoasters” may feel familiar (but aren't healthy)
• [00:26:00] The difference between trauma bonds and true secure attachment
• [00:29:00] Why healing attachment wounds is critical for brain protection in menopause
• [00:33:00] The best therapy modalities to start healing attachment trauma

If you’ve ever felt like love is too hard, too complicated, or too painful—this episode is for you. Unhealed attachment trauma can impact not just your relationships, but also your long-term brain health. But the good news? Healing is possible. And it’s worth it.

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