Happy & Healthy with Amy

Why You Keep Getting Stuck: Uncovering The Real Trigger of Your Habits

• Amy Lang • Season 2 • Episode 24

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If you’ve ever said “I deserve a treat” or “I’ll start on Monday,” this episode is for you.

In Part 3 of this series on why you keep getting stuck, master health coach Amy Lang reveals the hidden triggers most habit frameworks miss that lead to self-sabotage.

🔍 What to Listen For:

  • 0:00 - "I deserve a treat" and other automatic thoughts
  • 1:00 - Welcome + why this series matters for your brain
  • 3:00 - Quick recap: B=MAP and the Elephant metaphor
  • 4:30 - The habit loop everyone gets wrong
  • 5:30 - The REAL trigger (it's not the external cue)
  • 8:00 - When thoughts trigger shame instead of comfort
  • 10:00 - Why being hard on yourself backfires
  • 10:45 - The empowering truth about your "second thought"
  • 15:30 - Deep dive: Why "I deserve a treat" is so powerful
  • 17:30 - Threat thoughts and the shame spiral
  • 21:00 - Common Elephant thoughts (which ones are yours?)
  • 22:00 - Why willpower always runs out
  • 24:00 - This week's challenge: Just NOTICE
  • 27:00 - Michael Singer quote + what's coming next week

If you’ve been trying to willpower your way through habit change, it’s time to stop. Amy shows us that our thoughts are habits—and the first step to freedom is awareness. You might not choose the first thought, but you can choose what happens next.

Part of the Happy and Healthy, "Why You Keep Getting Stuck" behavior change series:

  • Part 1: The Hidden Barriers Keeping You Stuck
  • Part 2: The Hidden Complexity Leading to Overwhelm
  • Part 3: Uncovering The Real Trigger of Your Habits (this episode)
  • Part 4: What Your Brain Actually Needs to Change (coming next week)

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